Sometimes confidence for an anxiously attached person<\/strong> seems almost impossible.\u00a0<\/p>\n After all, your anxious attachment system is screaming at you all day long, making you doubt your every move and every thought.<\/p>\n I mean I would know, I used to live with it every day.<\/p>\n And we\u2019re talking real anxious attachment style here, not just someone who is secure deep down inside and just has some anxiety here and there.<\/p>\n You can determine your core attachment style (and get a score for where you are on the sliding scale of secure to insecurely attached) by taking my free quiz. I\u2019ve embedded it below:\u00a0<\/p>\n Anxiety is anxiety. Anyone can have it. But real anxious attachment style can be often debilitating and you need to understand the difference.\u00a0<\/p>\n So as I\u2019ve mentioned before, anxiously attached people are prone to negative affect.<\/strong><\/p>\n What is negative affect? In psychology, negative affectivity, or negative affect, is a personality variable that involves the experience of negative emotions and poor self-concept.\u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n Imagine trying to be confident with that as your inner template! Can you imagine?\u00a0<\/p>\n A poor self concept is literally embedded into your attachment template and you\u2019re trying to be confident?<\/p>\n Well, fear not. I\u2019m here to help.\u00a0<\/p>\n As simple as the answer may be, the real pathway to unwavering confidence from anxious attachment is a deeper level of self appreciation.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Related reading: Breakups: How Anxious Attachment Styles Cope & Behave.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\nDo the quiz: What is my attachment style? <\/h2>\n
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