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When your ex gets engaged or married, it can hit hard, even if you\u2019re over them. Here\u2019s how to cope with the flood of emotions in a healthy way.<\/span><\/h2>\n

It always happens when you least expect it, your ex just got engaged. You\u2019re casually doomscrolling through socials when suddenly their name pops up\u2026 next to a ring emoji.<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019re happily single, in a new relationship, or deep in healing, this kind of news can stir up all kinds of messy, unexpected emotions. That little internal voice goes: Wait\u2026 why do I feel weird about this?<\/em><\/p>\n

So what do<\/em> you do when your ex gets engaged or married, and it hits you harder than you\u2019d like to admit? Let\u2019s talk about it.<\/p>\n

[Read: 40 signs to tell if your ex is over you or only pretending to have moved on]<\/p>\n

What to Do When Your Ex Gets Engaged or Married<\/span><\/h2>\n

So, how do you properly reach the final stage of acceptance when your life feels like it\u2019s crashing around you because your ex is now engaged and soon to be married? <\/p>\n

Well, here are some things to keep in mind when learning how to deal with the big news.<\/p>\n

1. It\u2019s okay to feel bothered<\/span><\/h3>\n

You were once the love of their life, so it\u2019s okay if there\u2019s still some semblance of an emotion that you feel for your ex. A simple tug at your heartstrings is normal because at some point you did imagine walking down the aisle with this person.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re still not over your ex, it\u2019s okay to be jealous or even sad. It shows that the feeling is still there. But you would one day have to face the fact that you and your ex weren\u2019t able to work things out. <\/p>\n

They still deserve to be happy. The sooner you come to terms with this, the better. [Read: Closure after a relationship \u2013 29 signs you haven\u2019t got it & ways to move on]<\/p>\n

Psychology calls this \u201cdisenfranchised grief\u201d, the pain we feel when we lose something we\u2019re not \u201csupposed\u201d to mourn anymore, like an ex getting married. \ud83d\udcda Source: Doka, K. J., 1989, Disenfranchised grief: Recognizing hidden sorrow<\/p>\n

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2. Congratulate your ex if you\u2019re still on speaking terms<\/span><\/h3>\n

Not all breakups lead to both of you pretending the other doesn\u2019t exist. Amicable separations are increasingly common. <\/p>\n

If you\u2019re friends on Facebook or you still stay in touch, drop them a line. Ask your ex how they\u2019ve been doing and say congratulations. It may take a load off your ex\u2019s chest once they know that you\u2019re actually pretty okay with the engagement.<\/p>\n

3. Talk about it to your close friends<\/span><\/h3>\n

This works increasingly well if the people you talk to about the upcoming wedding are also acquaintances with your ex. If you feel angry or jealous, let it out. <\/p>\n

Your friends would be able to comfort you and offer you some advice on how to completely move on. However, if it\u2019s not really a big deal, you can just casually mention it and move on to more interesting topics of conversation. [Read: 20 lovesick signs and the fastest and best ways to get out of it]<\/p>\n

4. Set boundaries with your mutual friends<\/span><\/h3>\n

Whether or not you have chosen to confide in your situation with your close friends, you absolutely need to set boundaries about the topic with the people in your life. <\/p>\n

Such boundaries include if it\u2019s okay to talk about your ex\u2019s engagement and what certain points are appropriate or not to talk about.<\/p>\n

If you still have feelings for your ex, no doubt the temptation to make negative comments about their engagement is nagging at you. But whatever the case may be, badmouthing your ex\u2019s new love will just make you look bitter and resentful. <\/p>\n

If you think you\u2019re an entire league above your ex\u2019s future spouse, just keep it to yourself. You wouldn\u2019t want to invite drama if the newly engaged couple suddenly finds out that you\u2019ve been talking behind their backs.<\/p>\n

6. Stop the social media stalking<\/span><\/h3>\n

Listen, if you find yourself refreshing your social media feed waiting to see photos of the newlyweds, it\u2019s time for a detox. It\u2019s normal, no one will judge you. [Read: The toxic dangers of social media & 19 signs and ways it makes you insecure]<\/p>\n

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Social media fuels rumination, replaying emotional pain over and over, which researchers say makes it harder to heal after heartbreak. \ud83d\udcda Source: Nolen-Hoeksema, S., 1994, Ruminative coping and adjustment to loss<\/p>\n

Give it a few months, plus another extra month for when the photos of the wedding come out. And then you can go back to following your ex, that is, if you still manage to remember. <\/p>\n

By the time they\u2019re showing ultrasound pictures of their future kid, you should be well over the issue\u2026 hopefully.<\/p>\n

7. There\u2019s no need to mention it to your current partner<\/span><\/h3>\n

You can air out your grievances to your friends, but your partner is a whole other story. Emotionally mentioning it to your partner might make them feel insecure. <\/p>\n

After all, it seems like you\u2019re still affected by any news regarding your ex. Our advice is to keep it on the down low for a while, or just mention it in passing and let it go completely.<\/p>\n

8. Don\u2019t try to visualize their wedding<\/span><\/h3>\n

At first, you might start to think of where t<\/span>he wedding venue is, what the bride will wear, and what the motif may be. And then, you\u2019d start thinking of how YOU would do it<\/span>. You don\u2019t want to go down that road. <\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to be planning an imaginary wedding for a long-gone ex who\u2019s not even engaged to you. Crush the urge and distract yourself with anything that\u2019s not even remotely related to weddings. <\/p>\n

9. Don\u2019t compare yourself<\/span><\/h3>\n

Marriage is not a race. It\u2019s not even a valid measurement of success or happiness. Do you have any idea how many people are still honestly not ready for marriage? <\/p>\n

According to social comparison theory, we measure our own success by comparing ourselves to others, especially people we\u2019ve dated. No wonder your ex\u2019s engagement can sting. \ud83d\udcda Source: Festinger, L., 1954, A theory of social comparison processes<\/p>\n

Everyone gets the desire to get married at different points in their lives, and some don\u2019t even want to walk down the aisle at all! Try not to make comparisons with your ex when they get married.<\/p>\n

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10. Try to recall why it didn\u2019t work out between you<\/span><\/h3>\n

You may have done this before when you were still getting over your ex. But in light of your ex getting engaged, you may want to revisit those moments. There is a valid and non-painful reason you\u2019re not the one who\u2019ll be saying \u201cI do\u201d to your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether it\u2019s being too busy with other things, t<\/span>heir incessant nagging, or their knack for looking at other <\/span>people, keep these reasons in your head. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remind your<\/span>self why you <\/span>definitely don\u2019t want to be the one getting married to them.<\/span> [Read: 23 reasons why good relationships end even if there were no red flags]<\/p>\n

11. Surround yourself with people who love you and keep you busy<\/span><\/h3>\n

It\u2019s easy to spiral when finding out big news from someone you once shared love with. <\/p>\n

Even if you don\u2019t feel that way for them anymore, it still triggers old memories and that can make you feel out of control. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so important to surround yourself with caring, loving people who can keep your mind on better things.<\/p>\n

Plan a girl\u2019s trip, attend a bro\u2019s night, or have your family over for dinner. Whoever it is in your life that radiates positivity, reach out to them. [Read: 26 whys & ways to surround yourself with positive people & remodel your life]<\/p>\n

12. Try to be genuinely happy for your ex<\/span><\/h3>\n

This would be easy if you managed to become friends after breaking up. Of course, you\u2019d want your friend to be happy! <\/p>\n

What kind of friend would you be if you didn\u2019t? On the flip side, if you still wish it was you they chose, try to realize that no amount of wishing can change the fact that your ex is getting married.<\/p>\n

If you truly, unselfishly love your ex, you\u2019d want them to still be happy, right? Even if you\u2019re not the one they\u2019ll be happy with. It may sound like such a tragic thing, but acceptance will eventually override your love for your ex.<\/p>\n

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\ud83d\udc49 Want to understand your emotions better? Read these features:<\/strong><\/p>\n

You might have been doing great, until you opened Instagram. Now you\u2019re scrolling through a perfectly filtered engagement announcement, complete with 78 heart emojis and a drone-shot proposal video. Oof.<\/p>\n

These days, it\u2019s not just your ex getting engaged. It\u2019s your ex going viral<\/em> getting engaged. And that can make the emotional impact hit harder than ever.<\/p>\n

If you find yourself spiraling, mute them. Block if you need to. You\u2019re not petty, you\u2019re protecting your peace.<\/p>\n

What Not<\/em> to Do When Your Ex Gets Engaged or Married<\/span><\/h2>\n

1.<\/strong> Don\u2019t post a thirst trap captioned \u201cI\u2019m doing great, thanks for asking \ud83d\udc85\u201d<\/p>\n

2.<\/strong> Don\u2019t send \u201ccongrats\u201d with a skull emoji or a thinly veiled Taylor Swift lyric<\/p>\n

3. <\/strong>Don\u2019t text \u201cso happy for you\u201d while sobbing into a bag of Cheetos<\/p>\n

4.<\/strong> Don\u2019t dig through their fianc\u00e9\u2019s Instagram like you\u2019re doing FBI-level recon<\/p>\n

5. <\/strong>Don\u2019t book a solo trip to Bali in rage unless you were already planning it (but if you do, slay)<\/p>\n

The Rollercoaster of Emotions You Might Feel<\/span><\/h2>\n

Maybe you\u2019ve been through it, or maybe you have yet to experience it. But learning that your ex is moving on with their life with someone else is no walk in the park. <\/p>\n

These feelings are perfectly normal, and you\u2019re sure to go through them.<\/p>\n

1. Shock<\/span><\/h3>\n

Haha, there\u2019s just no way\u2026 Haha, let me double-check this. This didn\u2019t happen. Yes. Yes, it did.<\/em> And you definitely didn\u2019t think it was going to happen before you. <\/p>\n

You call your mom, you call your grandma, you call all your friends. Everyone must know. Everyone must know your ex is getting engaged and either join you in shock or confirm that this is a true event.<\/p>\n

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Your support team was there while you were drowning them in despair over your breakup, and now they have the honor of talking about this new life event. [Read: 15 secrets to comfort and help a friend heal through a breakup and feel better]<\/p>\n

2. Anger<\/span><\/h3>\n

You can feel your body heat up while your eyes just stare at the picture of them and their new fianc\u00e9. Oh, they look so bloody happy. Well, isn\u2019t that great? I am just so glad that everything in his life worked out perfectly<\/em>. <\/p>\n

You grab some harmless snacks and start aggressively emotionally eating. We suggest going for a walk, instead.<\/p>\n

3. Jealousy<\/span><\/h3>\n

Your hand is digging deeper into the chip bag, and you\u2019re done for. Once you\u2019re at this phase after you\u2019ve realized your ex is tying the knot before you, you just have to let it take you. <\/p>\n

That being said, don\u2019t get swept up to the point where you\u2019re stalking them outside of their work, begging for a second chance.<\/p>\n

But naturally, your thoughts are similar to these: They don\u2019t suit each other. You can see it in their eyes, they aren\u2019t really in love. Have fun paying $50,000 for a wedding that won\u2019t make it past a year. We were a better-looking couple.<\/em> <\/p>\n

Yeah, that\u2019s right, get it all out. Just make sure these thoughts don\u2019t leave your house. [Read: 25 signs your ex wants you back and just can\u2019t stop thinking of you]<\/p>\n

4. Defeat<\/span><\/h3>\n

Your emotions switch, turning your ex\u2019s engagement into a competition. How can they have found somebody before me? The whole purpose of our break<\/em>\u2013up was that I was supposed to move on and find someone amazing, while they spend the rest of their life miserable over our break-up. <\/em><\/p>\n

They weren\u2019t even that great of a partner. I don\u2019t understand how they found someone who wants to be with them. I\u2019m here, single, and now suffering from stress-sweat. Nobody likes stress sweat.<\/em><\/p>\n

5. Desperation<\/span><\/h3>\n

This is when you bring out your Rolodex. The thought of you never finding someone and inevitably dying alone has never been so strong. Should I open my PlentyOfFish account again? Tinder isn\u2019t too bad, but wait\u2026 maybe eHarmony is better? That\u2019s more for serious players.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Fight this stage of desperation when you find out your ex is engaged. Don\u2019t call that person you had one so-so date with. Don\u2019t start thinking of potential people who weren\u2019t right for you to begin with. <\/p>\n

Not only that, don\u2019t drag some poor person into your pity party because you want to \u201cprove\u201d something to your ex. [Read: 20 wild steps to get over a broken heart and heal like you don\u2019t care]<\/p>\n

6. Nostalgia<\/span><\/h3>\n

Yes, they made you watch Rocky <\/em>over and over, and they had so many annoying habits you hated, but what if they were the one? <\/p>\n

You used to cuddle and watch the stars on clear nights. And there was that time you both woke up at 4 AM and rode your bikes to the beach with a bottle of champagne.<\/p>\n

The emotions and the good times you spent together are going to overwhelm you. You\u2019re probably going to think, \u201cDid I miss the one?\u201d <\/em>or \u201cWill I ever find someone who\u2019s going to love me like they did?\u201d <\/em>[Read: 49 proven secrets to stop thinking about your ex and forget them for good]<\/p>\n

7. Pity<\/span><\/h3>\n

Ah, then nostalgia does something beautiful. Remember their habit of not showering after basketball practice? Remember when you were sick, and they didn\u2019t call? Yes, you do.<\/p>\n

Remember those moments, because those were the moments that caused you to doubt your relationship with them. Their new fianc\u00e9 is going to have to sit next to the stench and put up with their lack of thoughtfulness.<\/p>\n

8. Amusement<\/span><\/h3>\n

While fond memories always bring a smile to your face, recall your ex\u2019s annoying habits and the fact that they will have \u201cTill death do we part\u201d tacked onto them once they tie the knot with their partner.<\/p>\n

Oh, God, that poor person is going to have to be with them for their entire life. They\u2019re going to have to live with their cheapness and dirty underwear \u2019til death do they part. You wouldn\u2019t be able to last a year!<\/p>\n

9. Relief<\/span><\/h3>\n

Well, you dodged the bullet. Wipe that anxiety sweat from your forehead because the worst has passed. <\/p>\n

After you pass the feelings of jealousy and anger, you really do realize that the fianc\u00e9 could have been you. Yes, your life would have been different, but is that the life you really want? [Read: Relieved after breaking up? 20 honest reasons why it\u2019s a very good sign]<\/p>\n

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10. Acceptance<\/span><\/h3>\n

Keep browsing through those \u201cuntil the wedding\u201d countdown photos, sit back, and enjoy the view. Someone you once loved intensely is happy and about to unite themselves with the right person. <\/p>\n

Emotional attachment systems don\u2019t turn off just because a relationship ends, which is why closure often comes in stages, sometimes long after the breakup. \ud83d\udcda Source: Fraley, R. C., et al., 2000, Adult romantic attachment<\/p>\n

After the fights, the horrible breakup, and the agonizing healing stage, their life took a turn and now they\u2019re deliriously happy. Just be happy for them and believe that you\u2019ll one day, you\u2019ll be just as deliriously happy too.<\/p>\n

[Read: 26 honest steps to let go of someone you love and move on & find peace]<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019ve fully moved on, finding out your ex is getting married can bring up memories you thought were buried. But that doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re not healing, it just means you\u2019re human. Be kind to yourself. Love leaves echoes, but it also clears space for something new. So take a breath\u2026 your chapter\u2019s still being written.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n


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