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Since the new year is just a few days away, it\u2019s pretty normal to think about how you want your life and relationships to be different in the coming year\u2013and maybe make resolutions around them.<\/p>\n
You might want\u2026<\/p>\n
*A different job
*Better communication with your loved ones
*To be kinder to people
*Deeper intimacy with your partner
*A loving partner to enjoy life with
*To move to a new city or new house
*To stop eating sugar (or fast food or anything else you think is wearing on your health)
*To get more sleep<\/p>\n
The list is endless but as most of us think about what we want in the new year, our minds usually land on what\u2019s wrong and the mistakes we\u2019ve made or our loved ones have made in the past.<\/p>\n
So what\u2019s a common love mistake that a New Year\u2019s resolution won\u2019t fix?<\/span><\/h2>\nVery simply, it\u2019s withholding love out of fear\u2013fear you\u2019ll get hurt again, fear you\u2019re not enough, fear you won\u2019t be okay if something does or doesn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n
Why doesn\u2019t a New Year\u2019s resolution \u201cfix\u201d the fear?<\/strong><\/p>\nYou can\u2019t get rid of fear and have more love in your life by using your \u201cresolve\u201d or your will to do it.<\/p>\n
You can\u2019t convince yourself by repeating over and over-\u201cI\u2019m not afraid\u201d and \u201cfix\u201d fear.<\/p>\n
We\u2019ve found that to \u201clet go of fear\u201d is to allow the love that\u2019s always there to shine through.<\/p>\n
When you don\u2019t replay in your mind all the awful things that can happen (or have happened), your mind does settle and love for yourself and others does seep through.<\/p>\n
\u2013>Want a no-charge conversation with us to help you have easier, happier relationships? Click Here<\u2013<\/span><\/h3>\nThe truth is that withholding love does take effort and holding yourself tight and is a common love mistake.<\/p>\n
When you stop \u201cefforting\u201d in that way, there is more ease in your life and naturally more love.<\/p>\n
So if you are making New Years resolutions this year, don\u2019t include all your \u201cshoulds.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShoulds\u201d never make for lasting change.<\/p>\n
Just remember that at the core of who you are is love and everything else will flow from there. You\u2019ll be open to new possibilities and more love than you ever thought possible.<\/p>\n
Happy New Year from the two of us to you!<\/p>\n
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You can\u2019t get rid of fear and have more love in your life by using your \u201cresolve\u201d or your will to do it.<\/p>\n
You can\u2019t convince yourself by repeating over and over-\u201cI\u2019m not afraid\u201d and \u201cfix\u201d fear.<\/p>\n
We\u2019ve found that to \u201clet go of fear\u201d is to allow the love that\u2019s always there to shine through.<\/p>\n
When you don\u2019t replay in your mind all the awful things that can happen (or have happened), your mind does settle and love for yourself and others does seep through.<\/p>\n