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As we mature, we all choose our own life path, and the choices we make are ours. That means taking accountability for the love we accept, the boundaries we set, and the patterns we continue.<\/p>\n

Please take note that a repeated mistake is a choice! How you choose to live your life influences your journey. If you keep wondering why you end up in similar relationships, this post is for you. The patterns you create are usually shaped by past experiences, attachment styles and unconscious beliefs.<\/p>\n

OK, well, that\u2019s good to know, but why do I choose this unhealthy repetitive path?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

1.<\/strong> You are always making excuses. <\/strong><\/h4>\n

You may not even be aware that negative dialogue regularly enters your mind. Saying things like this are examples: \u201cI always attract the wrong people.\u201d \u201cI seem to have a type that never works out.\u201d \u201cI keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners.\u201d If this sounds like you, you are attracting these people because you are stuck in a negative belief system.<\/p>\n

The energy you live in daily becomes the reality you create. This mindset continues to bring more of the same toward you. Recognizing that you keep ending up in these types of relationships is important. It is a good start to breaking the pattern.<\/p>\n

2<\/strong>. Not understanding your attachment style<\/strong>.<\/h3>\n

Example: You may choose emotionally unavailable partners due to being an avoidant. You pull back when things get too close. Therefore, you are attracted to someone who also has similar fears. Or, the opposite, where you chase security and reassurance due to fear of abandonment. We all have a few issues that need to be understood. The best way to do that is take ownership of the role you have predominantly played in your life. What word best describes you? <\/p>\n

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  • Playing the victim<\/li>\n
  • Lonely<\/li>\n
  • Commitment phobic<\/li>\n
  • Insecure<\/li>\n
  • Controlling<\/li>\n
  • Lack of self-worth<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    It is really important to know who you are if you want to make changes to your life. That way, you can then work on the problem linked to the role you have taken on.<\/p>\n

    3.<\/strong> Choosing sexual chemistry over compatibility<\/strong>.<\/h4>\n

    This is a very common relationship problem. Many other attributes are initially overlooked when there is a deep sexual bond with someone. Unfortunately, this often causes drama, mixed emotions and insecurities. Sexual chemistry often comes with intense emotional highs and lows. This creates a push\/pull dynamic that feels exciting and debilitating. It is imperative to understand that long-term compatibility is steady and safe, not chaotic or emotionally volatile.<\/p>\n

    4. Ignoring red flags<\/strong>.<\/h4>\n

    You see familiar patterns but choose to ignore the signs. There is a comfort in repetition regardless of the self-sacrifice you are making. You are not in alignment with your partner. You are accustomed to fixing your situation with ongoing and unnecessary effort. This behaviour is all you know, so it feels normal to you. <\/p>\n

    5. Avoiding self-reflection<\/strong>.<\/h4>\n

    Quite often, we ignore fixing our own problems and try to fix our partner instead. Do you find that you try to mold your partner to match your emotional needs? This is a very common practice with men and women. We avoid self-reflection. Instead of doing the inner work, we look for someone who mirrors us, so compatibility feels effortless. <\/p>\n

    This issue arises when you lack confidence and let insecurities shape your identity. You then end up choosing partners who reflect those same insecurities you are trying to ignore. Rather than growing through each relationship experience, you search for someone who feels familiar. This continues the pattern, creating the same dynamics with each new partner.<\/p>\n

    What you can do to fix these patterns and have a reciprocated healthy relationship<\/strong>.<\/h2>\n

    Once you understand what triggers your patterns, you can then respond with intention rather than reacting automatically. You have been choosing familiar scenarios because it is what you know best. That hasn\u2019t served you well, which needs to be addressed and altered. <\/p>\n

    Personal growth requires you to step away from relationships that reinforce old wounds and behaviours. Taking time out from any partnership will help give you clarity. We don\u2019t always see things for what they are until we remove ourselves from negative patterns. Counselling at this point is always a great idea. Long-term patterns often need outside help and a different perspective.<\/p>\n

    Being capable of moving on from unhealthy patterns is so important<\/strong>.<\/h2>\n

    This will lead you to the highest place of where you are meant to be. Take responsibility, not self-blame, by strengthening your boundaries. Choosing the same cycles that keep causing you drama, sadness, or heartbreak isn\u2019t the path to happiness. Choose differently!<\/p>\n

    Growth feels uncomfortable because it is unfamiliar, not because it\u2019s wrong. It\u2019s always a great time to reinvent yourself because then you are constantly evolving and learning new things! Allow yourself to outgrow old versions of you and understand that you deserve better. That is the beauty of life; you have choices. <\/p>\n

    When you change the pattern, you change the outcome. \u2764\ufe0f<\/p>\n

    \u00a0Thank you for stopping by,<\/em><\/strong> Sybersue xo<\/em> <\/strong>\ufe0f<\/h3>\n
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