Total<\/span><\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\nMen pull away for a variety of reasons depending on the stage of the relationship. However those reasons usually pertain to preserving their own masculine equilibrium as well as their own emotional and physical resources.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\nSometimes there\u2019s nothing worse than having your man pull away. <\/p>\n
Whether your man is falling in love with you, or it\u2019s only the very early stages of a relationship and you\u2019re not sure <\/em>if he is in love with you, a man pulling away is stressful.<\/p>\nAnd it\u2019s doesn\u2019t matter how long he pulls away for. Whether it\u2019s a day, a week or a month \u2013 it still hurts.<\/strong><\/p>\n\u2026Because we are talking about a man whom you\u2019ve invested your precious time, your energy and your emotions into.<\/p>\n
And so for him to pull away from you at any moment, it\u2019s painful. As a woman, you would feel that his lack of presence leaves a void that is difficult to fill.<\/p>\n
In this article, we will address the following questions:<\/p>\n
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Key Takeaways<\/h2>\n\nAll good men pull away at some point in a relationship, and it\u2019s not always for negative reasons. Usually it is in order to regain their masculine equilibrium.<\/li>\n It\u2019s possible for some men to not <\/em>pull away, but this happens for very specific, unique reasons (see below).<\/li>\nSome signs he\u2019s pulling away include: him investing time in other things, acting distant, going quiet and texting you less.<\/li>\n Responding to him pulling away from fear will cause you to strip value from the \u201crelationship bank\u201d.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/video><\/p>\nDo Men Really HAVE To Pull Away?<\/strong><\/h2>\nEvery day my team and I get questions about the topic of men pulling away.<\/p>\n
The reality is that men will <\/em>pull away and withdraw from you and from the relationship. It\u2019s bound to happen at some point.<\/p>\nSome women have argued with me about this in the past. \u201cDon\u2019t make excuses for men!\u201d<\/em> They say.<\/p>\nI know, I know. Why give a toxic man permission to treat you badly? Why just \u201callow\u201d him the freedom to pull away?<\/em><\/p>\nBut before you swiftly adopt the attitude of these ladies, let me suggest that I\u2019m not asking you to tolerate being treated like an option.<\/strong><\/p>\nI am asking for your patience while I explain the perspective of a good man.<\/em><\/p>\nLet\u2019s start by asking an important question:<\/p>\n
\nMust all men pull away at some point?<\/u><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n There\u2019s a very simple, three-part answer to this question:<\/p>\n
\nI have definitely heard about men who have never pulled away in a relationship.\nHowever, that man who never pulls away is a rare exception.<\/p>\n
(And he is able to be<\/em> the exception, perhaps because he was just in the perfect place in his relationship timeline<\/strong> when he met the woman).<\/p>\nIt could also be due to the myriad of factors in their unique relationship lining up at exactly the right time.<\/em> However\u2026(And this brings us to the second part of the answer).<\/p>\n<\/li>\nIf a woman says her man never pulls away (which again, is an exception), it\u2019s not necessarily that he doesn\u2019t<\/em> <\/strong>pull away.\nIt\u2019s more that she (the woman) doesn\u2019t perceive that he pulls away. Either she understands him, so she doesn\u2019t find his actions a threat to her emotional safety\u2026<\/p>\n
Or, she has secure<\/strong> attachment style<\/strong> (so his absences don\u2019t bother her too<\/em> much).<\/p>\nIt\u2019s also possible that she is more balanced in her masculine and feminine energy, so she is able to understand what her man is doing a little better.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n
Sometimes it seems<\/em> like the man hasn\u2019t pulled away due to a lack of fights and conflict in the relationship.\nYes, I did just say that. When couples try really hard to avoid fights, they may seem to \u201ckeep the peace\u201d on the surface. <\/p>\n
But when a man and a woman come together and get closer emotionally, inevitably there is conflict. <\/p>\n
Unless there isn\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\nThere are couples out there who pride themselves on \u201cnever arguing\u201d as if it\u2019s something to aspire to. But it\u2019s not.<\/p>\n
A complete lack of arguments may simply signal that one or both of them are afraid of conflict, or are completely avoidant people. <\/p>\n
And that\u2019s a problem, because sometimes it\u2019s the conflict<\/em><\/strong> in the relationship that causes a man to pull away, but this isn\u2019t always an inherently negative thing.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/video><\/p>\nExpect Him To Pull Away At Some Point<\/strong><\/h3>\nI know that according to conventional wisdom, this sounds like I\u2019m trying to get you to \u201clower your standards\u201d and \u201caccept bad behavior\u201d from men.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s not true.<\/p>\n
Instead, I\u2019m saying this because I managed to discover some deeper truths about men<\/strong> that most people are too fearful to discover for themselves.<\/p>\nAnd I know these truths not just because I\u2019ve coached thousands of women, but because I\u2019ve felt the pain of my own man pulling away.<\/p>\n\n\n