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On a sunny afternoon at a beautiful outdoor wedding, one of the bridesmaids meets a handsome bachelor.<\/p>\n

He was tall, handsome and apparently the CEO of a local company.<\/p>\n

And she was slim, beautiful and bit of a socialite herself.\u00a0<\/p>\n

These 2 hit it off straight away, within weeks they became inseparable.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Within 6 months, they moved in together, and even adopted a cat named socks.\u00a0<\/p>\n

From the outside things were looking great. However things weren\u2019t always what they seem.<\/p>\n

The woman began to feel unwell often. As the doctors would confirm, she was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease.<\/p>\n

So not only was she weighed down by lethargy every day, she started to put on more and more weight.<\/p>\n

But instead of helping her deal with this disease and just overall being there for her, her man mocked her and pressured her to lose the weight.<\/p>\n

After all, he didn\u2019t want to be seen publicly with a \u201clarger\u201d woman.<\/p>\n

In other words, he wanted to preserve his image more so than he wanted to see her healthy and happy.\u00a0<\/p>\n

So not only did her health take a major hit, so did her self esteem. And instead of support, all she got was disapproval, rejection and humiliation.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Eventually as you can imagine, they broke up and he never contacted her again.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Some would suggest that it was so unfortunate that she had to contract this disease, however you can also say that it was blessing in disguise as it completely revealed his character.<\/p>\n

And a man\u2019s character is exactly what I want to focus on in this article. We\u2019re going to discuss the 7 new truths on men that they hide from smart women.\u00a0<\/p>\n

MORE: 5 Simple Signs He Is NOT An Alpha Male.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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#1: A man who is overly concerned about image will throw you under the bus and abandon you<\/h2>\n

You can\u2019t value your image and<\/em><\/strong> put your relationship first, because one is antagonistic to the other.<\/p>\n

When a man values his image (for example, how you make him \u201clook\u201d in front of others), he\u2019s putting a subjective ideal first. A subjective ideal that other people may not share, let alone understand. <\/p>\n

Look: there are some behaviors that are objectively scornful. And if you engaged in these behaviors, you\u2019d lose your own friends and potentially his friends, too. <\/p>\n

For example, you showing up with intent to harm others. But otherwise, most what you do publicly is up to subjective interpretation. Having a bit of extra weight on you is not a reason for a guy to devalue you. <\/p>\n

For those people who value their image, you have to realize that this \u201cimage\u201d is a set of rules they made up based on their own fantasy. It doesn\u2019t reflect reality. <\/p>\n

As such, you have to understand that a man who consistently puts his image first devalues you and <\/em>your relationship by default. <\/p>\n

In order for anyone to put their lover first, they must let go of attachment to their image. <\/p>\n

The \u201cimage\u201d is a self created fantasy that undermines emotional connection, trust and intimacy. <\/p>\n

MORE: Future Faking: 8 Signs, Examples & Why Narcissists Lure You With It.<\/strong><\/p>\n

#2: There are men who are slaves to female admiration, & there are men who aren\u2019t\u2026<\/h2>\n

There are men who are desperate for admiration from women in general, and there are men who only want their one and only to admire them. <\/p>\n

If a man seeks out female validation and admiration, that\u2019s a red flag<\/strong> more often than not. It could also be a sign that he has anxious<\/strong> or avoidant attachment style. <\/p>\n

For more on the 4 types of attachment styles in relationships, CLICK to read this article. <\/strong><\/p>\n

One could argue that on some level, all men like the female species appreciating them and their efforts, but seeking out attention from women is a sign of an addiction to female attention.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s problematic. That\u2019s maladaptive. It means he\u2019s seeking something today<\/em> that he never got in the past (and he doesn\u2019t even realize it). <\/p>\n

That something is the all-encompassing love of his parents that he never got. And the worst part about it is that by the time a man gets to this point, he\u2019s way past understanding it or being aware of it. <\/p>\n

Can you make a man aware that he\u2019s seeking the all encompassing love of his parents in the form of approval in women? <\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you can. But if he\u2019s not on board with healing that addiction, (which most avoidants will not be \u2013 however anxious are different)\u2026.then you have little hope of turning him into a securely attached man.<\/p>\n

Your best bet is to attract a securely attached man into your life. Take it from someone who\u2019s been healing from anxious attachment for 20 years \u2013 life isn\u2019t fun with an insecurely attached person.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re risking being hurt and emotionally abandoned. And so you have to be aware of that and either accept it, or move onto something better. <\/p>\n

Related: How to Let Go Of An Avoidant Man When You\u2019re Anxious (+ Advice If You\u2019re Secure).<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your ability to find and attract a secure man also comes down to your own attachment style. You can discover your own CORE attachment style (and get a score for how secure you are) by taking my quiz. I\u2019ve mbedded it here: <\/p>\n

(Why is this important? It is because your core attachment style largely dictates and influences what happens in your relationship. Thus it\u2019s imperative you understand your core attachment style!)\u00a0<\/p>\n

Do the quiz: What is my attachment style? <\/h2>\n

#3: A loyal man stays that way <\/h2>\n

\u2026He doesn\u2019t change because a hot woman tries to seduce him.\u00a0Here\u2019s what you have to understand:<\/p>\n

For some men, loyalty is not in their blood. <\/p>\n

But for the men whom loyalty is<\/em> in their blood, your sexual attractiveness and desire to seduce him will not change a thing.\u00a0<\/p>\n

MORE: 10 Telltale Signs He Is A Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha MALE. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a video I made on this exact topic: 7 NEW Truths on Men (That They Hide From Smart Women):<\/strong><\/p>\n

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