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Any conversation can turn ugly and messy if you don\u2019t handle it right and today we\u2019re giving you 3 tips for \u201cunsticking\u201d sticky conversations for more understanding and love.<\/p>\n
One of the most uncomfortable feelings you could ever experience when you\u2019re in a relationship or marriage (especially when you\u2019ve been together a long time) is\u2026<\/p>\n
When you feel like you can\u2019t say what you think or how you feel without a fight.<\/p>\n
You can feel unbearably alone, hopeless and\u2026<\/p>\n
It just sucks the life out of you and your relationship.<\/p>\n
There are plenty of reasons you may not feel like opening up and being honest with your partner or summon the courage to ask for what you want.<\/p>\n
But, if you want to have a healthy relationship, speaking from the truth of who you are in a way your spouse or partner can hear is something you\u2019ll want to practice (even if it\u2019s uncomfortable) .<\/p>\n
If you can\u2019t talk to your partner in this way, you not only feel disconnected from them but we\u2019re guessing that you are also angry and upset (even if you don\u2019t want to admit it\u2013even to yourself.)<\/p>\n
So, what\u2019s the solution?<\/strong><\/p>\n How can you say what\u2019s on your mind and in your heart without fear of what your partner might say, do or how they might react\u2013especially around certain topics?<\/p>\n How can you really talk to your spouse or partner without either of you getting angry, hurt or defensive?<\/p>\n In a nutshell, it\u2019s 3 things that make the difference when you\u2019re struggling with having sticky conversations with someone important to you\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s your mindset, your approach and the words you use.<\/strong><\/p>\n Pretend that you\u2019re fed up with your partner\u2019s lack of attention but you know that if you say anything, you\u2019ll start a fight and make it worse.<\/p>\n What do you do?<\/p>\n Before you say a word, you have to look at your mindset that says he or she will never change and it will always be this way.<\/p>\n Or maybe you\u2019re saying something else to yourself that closes you down.<\/p>\n Open to the possibility that things could get better between the two of you.<\/p>\n And it starts with you softening your approach toward him or her and seeing even small results.<\/p>\n The truth is that if your thoughts are steering you into attacking and being defensive, this is what you\u2019ll get in return.<\/p>\n Whatever you\u2019ve been doing that hasn\u2019t worked (like withdrawing, complaining, arguing or manipulating), try a different approach.<\/p>\n Find out what you REALLY want.<\/p>\n If you want more attention from your partner, what might be something tangible you can ask him or her instead of veiled or sarcastic complaints about what you\u2019re NOT getting.<\/p>\n This is a change in approach that can really make a difference to your and your partner\u2019s happiness in the relationship.<\/p>\n We created a free video called \u201cMagic Relationship Words\u201d that give you examples of what to say to get it \u201cright\u201d every time like the following\u2026<\/p>\n Compare this sentence (and the way it\u2019s said)\u2026 To\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019d love for us to be close like we used to be. Could we just sit and cuddle for awhile?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Wow\u2013<\/p>\n As you read both of these, we\u2019re sure you can feel the difference and if you can feel it, your partner will also!<\/p>\n If you\u2019re afraid to approach sticky conversations and to say what you think or what you feel, don\u2019t stay frustrated and don\u2019t say or do something you\u2019ll come to regret later.<\/p>\n Again, the 3 steps we just talked about are:<\/p>\n Change your mindset, change your approach and change your words.<\/p>\n Use our 3 communication tips and \u201cunstick\u201d those sticky conversations<\/p>\n <\/p><\/div>\nHere are examples of how to put ease into sticky conversations\u2026<\/h2>\n
First\u2013Look at your mindset<\/h3>\n
Second\u2013Change your approach.<\/h3>\n
Third\u2013Change the words you use.<\/h3>\n
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\u201cYou\u2019re never romantic and we\u2019re not intimate anymore! Would it kill you to touch me every once in awhile!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\nIf you have a question about all this, contact us here\u2026<\/h3>\n